This may sound strange.
You probably haven't seen it in any
other marriage advice guides.

We've notices something...that domestic
quarrels tend to build up at night.
Police claim that household disputes
are their #1 night beat call.
We've never been called in to mediate
a family dispute in daytime.
Only at night.

So, for a number of important reasons,
it should be a rule that all important
discussions and disagreements be dealt
with in daylight hours.

Many irreversible decisions and actions
occur in the blindness of darkness.

Deal with problems in DAYLIGHT.

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There is a good time to look at
the other with wonder.

Wonder that such a one has
ventured a whole life with you!

Wonder that you two have made something
new in you blending of selves.
Wonder at the miracle of the sharing of life.

Wonder that you ever met, got together,
survived, struggle together, stayed together.

Wonder that you share your brief time of
awareness in the universe and on planet
earth with this special one.

Wonder that this other human has
risked, trusted, hoped, dreamed,
dared a whole life with you.

Wonder at how chemistry, romance, friendship,
commitment, and partnership define love.

When the other is not looking,
WONDER!

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